Last weekend was Mother’s Day. Despite Rodeph Shalom Day
School’s principal’s best attempt to ban this ‘hate-filled’
holiday, most of us spent Sunday with our mothers, or at least
on the phone with them, thanking them for not dumping us in a
toilet somewhere when we were a few hours old to die a slow,
agonizing, and lonely death.
Of course, I can thank my mother for considerably more than
that, and I suspect anyone who is reading this column probably
can too. In addition to waiting until she was a grown-up to have
a child, my mother did me the favor of staying home to raise me
until I was ten. Even now, across 3000 miles, she continues to
allow me to call her at all hours of the day and night to ask
for stupid favors and advice. Since I was conceived after Roe
vs. Wade, the best I could have been hoping for as a young fetus
was to not be ripped apart by a vacuum cleaner, but I really
lucked out--not only did my mom allow my birth, she further
allowed and even facilitated the continuation of my life for the
past twenty-whatever years.
Contrast my experience with that of Angel Caliboso Ocampo,
the newborn baby abandoned in a Delaware port-a-potty in March
of last year. Baby Angel’s story as told in The Washington
Post is horrifying not just for her death, but for the
events leading up to and following it, including the Post
article of May 6th, 2001.
The blame for Angel’s murder rests on no one but her
parents—Abigail Caliboso and Jose Ocampo (of Virginia). It was
Abigail and Jose who had sex too young. It was Abigail and Jose
who deceived their families for nine months by hiding their
growing baby. And it was Abigail and Jose who, on March 26th,
2000, drove their day-old infant girl to Delaware, stuck a
pacifier in her tiny mouth, and abandoned her in a filthy
outhouse at a construction site. That night the temperature
dropped to 29 degrees, and little Angel Ocampo froze to death,
defenseless and alone.
Angel’s death is the fault of her irresponsible and selfish
parents, but the argument can be made that we all had a part in
it. Society as a whole has made it exceedingly easy to throw
away the lives of helpless infants, as illustrated perfectly by
the Washington Post article, which painted Abigail and
Jose as the victims in this tale. To read the Post story,
one would think the two teens are facing unjust punishment due
to their race (Filipino) and were just scared kids who were too
stupid to kill their child before it was born (with an
I, like many in the media, cannot help but point out the
chilling similarities between this and another baby abandonment
case in Delaware in 1996. The two cases are eerie in their
parallels, from the young, affluent perpetrators to the
horrifying details of their crimes. The only difference is that
this latest case happened four years after the first, and that
Abigail Caliboso and Jose Ocampo knew what happens to parents
who abandon their babies to die in Delaware--which is to say,
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Amy Grossberg and Brian Peterson, both of New Jersey,
received two and a half and two years in prison, respectively,
for leaving their baby to die in a Delaware dumpster five years
ago. Of this ridiculously lax sentence, Delaware Attorney
General M. Jane Brady said, "We had hoped that the sentence
in Grossberg-Peterson would be an exception, not the norm for
killing a baby in Delaware."
How Ms. Brady became Attorney General without becoming at
least briefly acquainted with the idea of ‘precedent’ is
beyond my comprehension, but it seems she has a situation on her
hands. Irresponsible teenagers all over the mid-Atlantic region
now know that Delaware is the place to go if you want to spend
two years in prison instead of 18 years raising a child. You
see, the original plea bargain was for five years in prison for
each parent in the Caliboso-Ocampo case, but a judge has
rejected that plea, insisting that the sentence is too harsh.
Yes, that’s right, folks--according to Judge Richard S.
Gebelein, five years is too much time to spend in jail
for the murder of a helpless infant, even--or perhaps
especially--one’s own infant. Gebelein’s ruling has
brought the proceedings in the Caliboso-Ocampo case to a
standstill, and justice for baby Angel looks less likely every
day. The real tragedy, though, is that babies are continually
losing ground in the war of selfishness against them.
Late last year, the House passed the Born-Alive Infant
Protection Act. The fact that many abortion advocates opposed
this legislation says much about their true priorities. The bill
was given a human face by Ms. Jill Stanek, an Illinois nurse who
testified before Congress about the conditions at Christ
Hospital, where she once worked.
Ms. Stanek told of healthy second-trimester babies born alive
during induced-labor abortions who were then callously left to
die. She remembered one little girl who showed signs of thriving
and lived for two and a half hours before passing away without
medical care or a loving hand to hold. She admitted to cradling
one Down’s Syndrome child in her arms for forty-five minutes
until the baby died. Stanek begged lawmakers to pass the Act,
which defines these survivors of abortion as ‘persons’ under
the law, and therefore entitles them to the same medical care as
any ‘wanted’ infant.
Abortion activists claimed that the legislation would put
women’s ‘right’ to abort their children at risk. When a
similar law was being debated at the state level in Illinois,
Representative Julie Stanos (D) said, "What we are dealing
with here is a law that substitutes the judgment of this second
physician to that of the mom."
Well, excuse my sarcasm, but God forbid a medical
professional decide whether or not a baby is really a baby. I
guess six or more years of schooling is not enough to qualify
someone to look at a tiny, squirming, crying human and say it’s
an infant. Only the opinion of the ‘mother’ should count. I
have as much psychological training as these ‘moms’ have
medical training (i.e. NONE), but I think these women live in a
state of delusion and actually believe that they define reality
for the rest of us.
The day that we make it socially ‘okay’ to murder our
little ones is the day we are no longer a civilized people.
Unfortunately, that day arrived on January 22nd, 1973
with the advent of Roe v. Wade. Next week, I will tell you the
stories of the most helpless among us, and why we must fight for
their lives as we would fight for our very own.
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